On Peeple Being Mean ….

No, that’s not a misspelling in the title of this blog post.

Have you heard? There’s supposedly this app launching allowing users to rate people. Pretty soon, you’ll be able to log on and rate people you know. I’m not sure what the scale is, but I have two words for you.

It sucks.

When I first heard about this, I thought it was a joke. There’s no way someone would create something that could potentially cause so much pain in someone’s life. I did some reading and, yep, it’s true.

Oh, but it’s meant to be positive.

angry birdThanks, Peeple creators, for making that statement. It’s a wonderful gesture to put such confidence in the people of this world. The same world filled with bullies who have been made worse since the introduction of social media. A couple months back I posted about Slam Books. Well, here we are – a 2015 version.

One of the creators said she wants to be able to see what kinds of parents her kid’s friends have. Here’s an idea – MEET THEM AND DECIDE FOR YOURSELF.

Someone may think Sally is just the cat’s pajamas. Maybe they were best friends since 1st grade and she can do no wrong. Another person may think Sally is a jerk because she got the promotion at work the other thought she deserved. Sally’s rating just went down because maybe she’s a harder worker and someone judged her negatively based on that.

This subject has made me an angry bird all day.

 

I drove behind a school bus the other day and all I could think about was when in grade school, the kids would all slide out in their seats so I couldn’t sit next to them. And then when I did find a seat, they spit on me.

I put my hair up recently and recalled how poorly I’ve always been at ponytails and how the kids made fun of me for it.

I snap my bra shut and images of being in 6th grade and being teased when I got my first bra fill my mind.

Sure, these weren’t completely devastating moments for me as I look back at it, but as a child they were. And they’ve stuck with me. Most of my school career I was teased in some form or another. I was a “dog” or had thunder thighs or was just weird. It really, really sucked.

And now I can live through that all again through this app. Yeah, me!

Sure, I did some reading and I found out that all feedback will sit in an inbox for 48 for someone to contest it. If you are not registered on the site and can’t contest it, all your feedback remains positive. You mean to tell me that sarcasm will be picked up? There’s NO way that negativity will slip through the cracks? I highly doubt it.

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I know I’m a grown woman. I have every right not to download this app and not to look myself up (and I won’t!). As an author, I check reviews and am curious what people say, but that’s about my work. I put that out there and expect it. I don’t expect to be judged online on a personal level. I already feel like over half my Facebook “friends” honestly don’t even care for me. I don’t want proof of that.

I won’t be checking out this app and I’ll hope no one reviews me. That doesn’t mean they won’t. I’m a human being, not a product. If I’m a product, I’m a product of my amazing parents who taught me better than to encourage judging other people and creating an environment to do so.

I hope this world I live in is better than this – better than this app – and can make decisions on their own.

  • Jayne Denker

    Hear, hear! I cannot believe that what was once a plotline on a comedy show (see MeowMeowBeenz from Community’s fifth season), which also was a scathing indictment of the internet’s judgy culture and people’s desperate need for approval from total strangers, is going to be a reality. The worst part: If someone else puts you on Peeple without your permission, you can’t remove your own profile! How is this not a violation of privacy? (The creators are reconsidering this, but as of now that’s their rule.) The good news is that humanity is better than we expect, and Peeple has been experiencing a severe backlash ever since the news of this app was announced. I sincerely hope that Peeple dies a swift death long before its intended launch date.

  • Brea Brown

    I agree with you on this, and I have to say, your recount of how your peers treated you in school really upsets me. I feel for that little girl. You said none of it was completely devastating, which is amazing to me. Most people would not be able to say the same. Yet, you still remember it in great detail. I know the majority of people have experienced bullying on some level, especially as children (because kids are mean and don’t consider long-term consequences), but being spit on? Where the heck were the adults when this was happening? As for people on FB you suspect probably don’t care for you, screw them. Gosh, I really want to give you a hug right now. And I know that wasn’t the point of the post, but that’s my biggest take-away. I can see why you don’t have much faith in humanity to reject this app, but I hope Jayne Denker is right that it will die before it ever has a chance to hurt anyone.

  • I gave this a lot of serious thought today and completely 100% agree. I find it devastating that we’re doing this, just another way to judge and hurt people, when the opposite is what we should be striving for as human beings. This whole thing strikes me as wholly dystopian. Imagine walking around all day with a rating above your head? Or gauging your own self-worth based on it? Your worth to your country or job? Ugh. And you just KNOW employers are gonna look at that site and judge you based on what it has on you. A HUGE invasion of privacy as far as I’m concerned. I hate this thing already.

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